Update on The Ex, aka “G”, aka Papi, aka Cut-buddy!

JMW & DC, y'all might not like this.

I started to fuck with my ex again because I was bored, and horny. I figured that since we were pretty compatible, (in bed) that, ehhh…..why not. Also, with him, I already knew most of his drama. There weren’t supposed to be any surprises.

There were other contributing factors I guess. Like I said before, (in older posts) my ex and I met in late 2002. Before I met him I had been abstinent for a little over a year. (Wait, does it still count as abstinence if you “satisfy your own needs”?) Anyway….. I’ve only had sex with one person since 2001. Too scared to lay down with anyone else I guess. Or, too lazy to look for another dude that could satisfy me. Anyway, for whatever reason I started to mix it up with him, it was a big mistake….BIG ……HUGE!!!!

The problems started about two weeks ago. We had plans to go out, but instead he asked me if I wanted to come to a picnic that his family was having. I said, “oh….you and the boys?” referring to his twin sons whom I adore. He said “no, everyone”. Well y’all know I had to pass on that. His family and I don’t really get along on account of the fact that I don’t respect any of them. Feel no need to be around those dramatic fools. And, I need to save all of my fake smiles for work…..Ya feel me????? Well after I said “no”, he had an attitude with me. Didn’t speak to me for a couple of days. Giving me the fuggin silent treatment like a damn girl. That’s around the time that my uncle died. I really didn’t need that extra shit. When we finally did speak, he was acting all funny. Lawd! I can’t stand a bitch ass dude. I could hear the attitude all in his voice. In my head I was like “Damn…..do you not remember how your mother was discreetly campaigning for your babies’ mom, while at the same time calling me her daughter in law? Inviting her to every single event she knew I would be at. Calling me on the phone, and asking me not to beat her ass?”

I remember that two faced shit. Anyway, days flew by and the anger both of us were feeling, kinda’ just faded away. He started to whisper sweet nothings in my ear …. again (this has been going on a lot within the past few months).

For some reason it didn’t sit well with me though.

When we started this *cut-buddy* relationship, we established that it would just be sex. I didn’t ask him how many women he was sleeping with. All I ever said was “be safe”. At first he was cool with that. Then whenever I would say it he would *act* all offended as if I were calling him a whore :) That’s when he really started acting as if I were his one and only. Even told me he wasn’t speaking/dealing with anyone else. Went so far as to let me lay up in his house when he wasn’t home. LOL!

Don’t get it twisted though, he always took his cell with him. That’s his second dick…his most prized possession. All of his little secrets neatly packed away into a tiny hand held fortress. And let me tell you. Like his real dick, he took it with him EVERYWHERE.

I remember one time, I had slept over. All night long his phone rang, but he would never answer it. The next morning he woke up and went to the bathroom. While he was in there his phone rang again. I looked at the phone and before I could even read the “m” in “Kim” I heard him running down the hall. LOL! All in a panic. I just walked by him and said “Kim called”. He (of course) had the stupid face. I just got my shit together and rolled. Laughing to myself, as he had a hissy fit in the background. Acting all confused, defensive & guilty. I should’ve never come back after that, but the dick was calling me. So this Friday, I end up sleeping over again. People were blowing up his phone all night long.

Saturday morning @ 7:00am, I wake him up because he has to get ready for work. While he’s in the shower, his phone rings. Twice actually. Both times the same girl..... Kim. I took that golden opportunity to go through his phone. Why?... Why not? Took a few numbers down, checked the pictures…..none of me up in there, but there were like 6 other girls. Some cute…..some not. I had taken a shower earlier in the morning. All I needed to do was brush my teeth and wash my face. When I was done I mentioned that he had a couple of missed calls. Keep in mind that it is 7:00am in the damn morning. Who else but a girlfriend calls that early?


Me: Kim called.

Him: Oh.

Me: Twice.

Him: (silent acting busy)

Me: So, is she another friend from work?

Him: No. She’s someone I’m trying to make stop calling me.

Me: Oh! ……….I went through your phone while you were in the shower
Papi.

Him: (inaudible noise) I don’t care.

Me: What about Tameka and Nikki? You trying to snub them too?

Him: They’re just friends. (Straight doo-doo face)

Me: Okay. (Gave him a lil’ smile)



Okay you want to play it cool? That’s fine with me. While I was walking to my car, he called out to me. “Damn, no kiss goodbye?” I said, “Yeah, just let me pull my car around first. I want to get out of this rain, ya know.” As I pull up alongside of his car, he has this face…like he’s waiting for me to snap. I just smiled and said. “I didn’t mess up your day did I? You look kind of nauseous.”
He said no, so I just smiled, and said I would call him later.

I knew what I was going to do. I was going to call them. I was in a rare mood. Feelin’ kinda bitchy. I get like that occasionally. This other part of me that I don’t really understand is hard to control at times. Sometimes I (the rational Nic) can control her. Other times…it’s like I just decides to sit back and enjoy the show.

I pulled up to my house and called “G”. I told him that I had taken a few numbers down and that I had to go make some calls. All in a little sing songy voice. And do you know what this fool said. "Okay Nic."
I go in the house and call Kim. I’m polite, but get straight to the point. We hit it off. She was cool. She asked me if he and I were in a relationship, and I told her “no, but with everything 'G’s' been saying it might be a possibility. I just want to make sure of a few things, before we go any further”. She seemed to corroborate his story right off the bat, which doesn’t really mean shit cause tricks lie. Her first words to me were
“Oh so what, did he tell you to call me? Did he tell you to say you’re his girl, and he don’t want me?” I explained how I got the number, told her why I called her. And let her know that he did not tell me to make any calls.

Well we got of the phone, (no beef I swear), and about 5 minutes later my phone rings. It’s “G” and he's mad as hell. Screaming and carrying on a lot over a call to someone he supposedly doesn’t even like. I was laughing to my self as he tried to jump down my throat. He was acting so out of character, and that’s how I knew that there was something serious going on between him and one of the other women. As he was “talking” to me, all I could do was laugh and say,
“Didn’t I tell you I was going to do this though? Did you think that I pulled those names out of thin air? Have I ever lied to you before? Well whose fault is it that you never took me seriously? Maybe that was your problem!”

I think that he was just scared that I was going to call the next group of girls, and mess up his plans. Well I don’t really need to do I. What ever those girls are doing, is on them. They aren’t of any real interest to me. The whole thing was just hilarious though. I mean really I expected more from him.I honestly thought that he would be able to have better control over situations like this. The whole thing makes me laugh, because…….well he fucked up. Wasn't I supposed to be completely under his control! Ha! Please!!!!! I know, deep down inside that I shouldn’t have stooped to his level of game playing, but darnit I want to have fun too. I mean shit I figure he’s been playing with my mind for years now, it’s only right that I be able to jerk him around too. All he had to do was just keep things sex based. He’s the one that started that “I still love you” crap. Not to mention that “let’s make a baby” shit. Pluheese!

If he would have just gripped me up, thrown me down, had his way with me and left me sleep on the ground…I would have been fine. Shit I love that type of stuff. Use me up baby! That’s what I get off on.He’s the one that tried to use the ole’ "rope-a-dope" tactics on me. BUT FOR WHAT? Why couldn’t he just keep it real with me? PUNK AZZ! Did he think that that was the only way he could keep me coming back to him? Fill me up lies…..keep me dazed and confused. Dude, it’s 2007 get your shit together. Don’t you know me by now? Don’t you know that I value honesty above everything? Dumb ass! So now you’re pouting cause some shit done blown up in your face and you didn’t see it coming. Bwahahahah! Didn’t I tell you not to fuck with my emotions? Did you think that I was really going to put my life on hold so that I could chase you around Philadelphia? Naw buddy! You can kiss my beautiful brown ass.Now I’m over here laughin’ to myself. Petty much? Yeah... I know it, but so fuggin’ what ! Karma’s a bitch, and I have a feeling that it’s just getting started with him.


Here are a few links, for anyone who wants to catch up on "The Ex".

Backsliding Again
Friday’s Trying to Destroy Me!
I Promised I’d Be Honest With Y’all!
I’m Getting Married Y’all……One Day.
Text Messaging While Tired.
Awwww Tuesday….
Is Paternity Becoming a Non-Issue?

Peace